If you’re looking for help with a sexual problem, you may want to consider sex therapy. It can be a scary prospect, but it’s used by millions of people around the world to help with issues such as erectile dysfunction, difficulty reaching orgasm, and changes in sexual desire after childbirth or menopause.
Sessions usually start with a full run-down of your sexual and relationship history, so don’t be afraid to be honest. You’ll also have an opportunity to discuss your goals with the therapist. Some couples attend sex therapy together; others choose to go alone. You’ll probably be assigned ‘homework’ to complete outside of the session, such as reading or watching videos. Your therapist will also give you strategies to practice communicating with your partner.
Sex therapists typically have a wide range of knowledge about sexual issues and can answer questions with zero judgement. They can also offer a variety of therapeutic approaches to tackle problems such as sex anxiety and ineffective sexual pleasure. For example, they can teach you techniques such as Sensate Focus, which allows you to reduce your anxiety by focusing on the touch and sensations available in the moment.
It’s important to remember that sex therapists are licensed mental health professionals and your conversations with them are confidential. Choosing a therapist with a valid license is an essential part of the process and you should check out their credentials with a professional body such as the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.